Rachael-Lea answers your most difficult love queries

Our expert Rachael-Lea Rickards has all the answers for those looking for love in all the right (and wrong) places

Dear Rachael-Lea,
I recently started chatting with someone online. We seem to really click. We’ve talked several times over the phone and are set to meet for a coffee date. Thing is, I’m concerned that he won’t like how I look. I’m about 15 pounds heavier than the picture I sent. What should I do? Signed,
Big Girl in Like?

Dear BGIL,
I feel your pain. Many online daters are guilty of this. Putting out a true representation of youself is always the best way to go. Your photo shouldn’t be from your 1989 graduation when Halle Berry had nothing on you, or the Dominican Republic trip from 2000 when you starved yourself for a month to fit into a bathing suit you never wore again. The fact is: He might like you just the way you are. Most, but not all, men like a little meat on the bones. However, if you show up with a little more fluff than in your photo, it’s not going to be pretty. Honesty is key to any relationship. Come clean, girl. Send him an updated photo and save yourself the stress. Either that or find a power girdle, hold your breath and hope for the best!? Good Luck!

Dear Rachael-Lea,
I’ve been dating a woman for the past two years. She’s caring, an amazing cook, and our intimacy is phenomenal. But we don’t have much in common, and I don’t think I love her. She wants to get married. Everyone around me thinks it’s time, but I just can’t marry someone I don’t love. Signed,
She Looks Good on Paper

Dear SLGOP,
Do you want a life partner or a warm body to snuggle next to? Don’t answer! End it!?Clearly you enjoy torture. Two years? What are you doing? Listen, nobody likes to be the “dumper” It takes a great deal of courage to tell someone to “hit the showers,” but be a man and do it. Don’t waste her time or your own. By the way, take a good look at the people who are encouraging you to marry your lukewarm woman — misery loves company. Two years is way too long to stay in something “mediocre.” If you wait another two years, you’ll experience the wrath of a scorned woman. She might even have a Waiting to Exhale moment with your stuff. Trust me, you don’t want to go there. Set her free. She’ll hate you now, but she’ll appreciate it later. Look on the bright side, I hear you can now buy Caribbean meals in the frozen food section now, stock up and move on!

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