When you’re not sure of the direction you’re going in–whether you’re suited for the path you have taken in life– I’ve found the best way to get perspective is to imagine yourself at the extreme opposite of your current position.

A Sway reader has been dating a great new guy that is emotionally available, but the “bad-Boy Ex is showing up and he’s hot. What to do? Stay with the nice guy, or go back to the ex that made life exciting yet ultimately hurt her?

I am 37 and I have been with the same man for 23 years. I am the mother of two of his children. He has four, but the other two are from other women. Needless to say, they were a result of his cheating.

Trying to maintain the passion in a long distance romance is as easy as walking in a straight line after a long night of partying. It’s going to take a great deal of effort and you’ll want to start off on the right foot. Get hooked up with these 7 tips for maintaining your long distance amour.

More advice from our expert Rachael-Lea Rickards for those looking for love in all the right (and wrong) places.

What do you love about him?
For me, it’s been love all the way from day one. I love everything about him. I love the way he walks, the way he talks. He’s a very caring man, very intelligent, the way he dresses and puts himself together.

Every man wants to feel like he can provide for his woman. But is your relationship built on what you buy her, or how you fulfill her, emotionally and physically? Pretending to be in a financial situation that’s not real is only digging your hole deeper while your bills pile up.

Do you want a life partner or a warm body to snuggle next to? Don’t answer! End it!?Clearly you enjoy torture. Two years? What are you doing? Listen, nobody likes to be the dumper. It takes a great deal of courage to tell someone to hit the showers, but be a man and do it.