Comments on: Black Daddies Club Weekly: REAL TALK: Memoirs of an Unemployed Father

By: Over The Excuses

Over The Excuses — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 00:44:41 +0000

It is so pathetic to see yet another black man putting his family through this. What if his daughters ever found out he treated their mother with disregard? Do you know what it does to young females when their male role models have disappointed them? I know first hand how they act out in response. Men like this do not deserve their family.

By: Aisha

Aisha — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 17:06:22 +0000

I was very sympathetic at the start of reading this article. I felt sympathy because I felt your struggle and was very respectful of the fact that you were trying. You were well aware of your role as the man of the house and seemed determined to push forward and make sure that your family is taken care of.

Then I began to read further and my sympathy and respect turned into plain ANGER!!! Anger because you gave up, and in the worst way. I’m still trying to pinpoint how you could go from a loving and ambitious husband and father to having ‘porn sex’ with mistresses. What are your true priorities? Where are you getting money for weed? Did you stop to think about your hard working wife and your beautiful daughters?

Please do your family a favour and just STOP! Get out of that backward spiral!

What can you contribute to the day to day functions of your household while job searching? What can you do to make sure your wife has less to worry about after a hard day’s work? What work can you do (even if factory) in the meantime that may lead to other opportunities?

Please find positive influences and activities for your downtime. Finally, STOP, take a look at your beautiful family.

All the best and I truly mean it!

By: hotta than fiya

hotta than fiya — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 12:40:56 +0000

an your cheatin’ excuse is full of sh*t!
u strong, u not need that!
flickering light off leaves and water, fresh breeze>>>
you don’t want your youth there with you?
higha

By: hotta than fiya

hotta than fiya — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 12:37:13 +0000

do it for the youth!

By: hotta than fiya

hotta than fiya — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 12:35:20 +0000

my friend,
get your life outta the shitty!
country is where its at!
cruisin down the forest on a bike
tons of ranches lookin’ for caretaker…local work and gardens all around
remember how to plant food?!!
respect!

By: SP

SP — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 21:12:55 +0000

@Tamekyou rea M,
Thank you for sharing those encouraging words. This is the story in the lives of many. How easy we forget when things get bad and we seek to further tear down. How easy we forget when things are going great and we float in our own praise.

Here is a man crying out for help. I see it so often and yet we either walk by or cast more criticizm. As a man it is disheartening when a man most needs help the best place to find that is with another man who can stand with him and lift him up. However, in our society where does a man now turn. If he does not have a strong woman by his side, other women are only but their to to feed from his manhood. I feel your pain sir, I recognize in the pages of your thoughts that you simply want to live a worhwhile life being the man you were shaped to be.

By: Wifey

Wifey — Fri, 24 Dec 2010 02:02:30 +0000

Wow. So I COULD be the wife mentioned because the author is describing my husband’s situation and antics. He is broke, lives off my money and is a chronic cheater. I can only put myself through so much for “love”, so my heart goes out to this guy’s wife and kids. Only HE can make the changes necessary to better his life, and he shouldnt be playing his wife and justify it with his need for gratification. He’s an a**hole.

By: DGS

DGS — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 04:01:57 +0000

I feel for you brother. Most men need to be the provider. Consider this… Most children these days barely spend enough quality time with their parents. You have the morning rush and then the evening rush. Right, now you have the opportunity to spend time with them in the mornings, the opportunity to take them to and from school. Daddy and daughter time after school. What you can provide for your family right now is your undivided attention, love and devotion.

By: Solomon G McCalla

Solomon G McCalla — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 02:04:01 +0000

Ahh my brother I can relate to most things in the article ..as I was unemployed for 10 mths last year going into this year ..what do you do with time on our hands and no money in your pocket become very frugal in your existence …search for possible business for a single proprietor..on not requiring much capital..utilize the skills which u already have..if u are technology savy use up the skills..if not find a course to get u on that train…join some NGOs ohror voluntary organization and net work ur way through the organization Net work Network ..net work u might come up on ideas or possible even unemployment
Fathers Incorporated

By: Melyssa

Melyssa — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 01:55:53 +0000

I feel your pain, frustration and stress, but cheating is never the answer. During hard times you need to look within, and turn to those who love you for they can be your strength when you are weak. Turn to God and have faith in his love, and never give up.