The reason why I mention the above is because I met many women both African-Canadian and Caribbean Canadian who have stated they would never date a member outside of their own cultural group. We already live in a country where we are a minority. Further divisions within this minority will only lead to a smaller the pool of good black men.

So my advice to the sisters out there is to embrace all black people irrespective of where they are originally from. And at that point if your still not able to find someone, then definitely go out and explore…

Just my two cents

Forget that…

U girls can keep ur thugs and drug dealing babydaddy’s…

like 50 cent said, in high school u was the mannnnnnnnnnnnnnn homey, what the **** happened to u?

Growing up I tried my hardest to be with a black girl in highschool. But none of them ever accepted me. I wasn’t ‘cool’ enough I guess. I didn’t have the designer clothing, or the thuggish/badboy attitude that black girls gravitated towards (due to mainstream media, Beyonce I need a solider/dmx why do good girls like bad guys etc). I was just a regular guy, working a job, supporting my mother and focusing on school. I didn’t have time nor was I interested in running the streets. Everytime I approached you black girls, you never gave me the time of day. I laughed at, ridiculed, mocked, simply because i didn’t think being a thug, and carrying a gun, or being a really skilled basketball player/rapper/ or drug dealer was hot.

Then i went to university, where I didn’t see many of my own kind. And i must say for the first time in my life i was actually accepted for being me. The white girls showed me love. They appreciated my goal oriented demeanor and my aspirations. I was the same old me, but finally found acceptance. Its you black girls that drove me and many others just like me away. Ive been scarred to be honest..Ever since high school I never tried to approach a black girl again because I was tired of the rejection.

So before you start u sisters start talking about brothers who went ‘astray’ and began dating white girls…its only because you drove us away!

If you look within yourself, u may be surprised to find that stereotyped thinking and prejudices have been ingrained in you from an early age. The main factors responsible vary from environmental/societal, media, parents, etc.

However, I want to extrapolate this article and assume that two people of different races get married. Think for moment about the children. Studies have shown that children raised from parents of different races have a hard time identifying with which race they belong. Many products of inter-race relationships have found to experience that Black society does not readily accept them, neither does white society. Those children tend to grow up with an identity crisis. If you look at any official government documentation, none caters to the biracial person (its either your white, black, asian etc). The only option that is available is “other”..so essentially what does it make that person, not human, an alien possibly?

Anyone considering an interracial relationship needs to look past themselves and think about the problems and issues a biracial child will have to deal with (and you as parents wont be able to relate/empathize with).

That white boy played Halle Berry like the so called ‘typical black dude’ would..

- they hooked up
- had a baby out of wedlock
- split up
- he her baby daddy now

How was he any better? Same story, different colour

There are plenty of career oriented, intelligent blackmen out there wanting to raise families and break the messed up cycle of babymother/babyfather norm that has become prevalent in our culture.

#imjustsaying

Then there is also the societal factor. Many people in this day and age have yet to come to grips with interracial relationships. Although they are growing in number, most have yet to gain acceptance from the general public. Take for example the wall street brother or professional athlete who marries a white woman. Most African american women consider them a sellout, or afraid of a strong black woman. On the contrary, a beautiful black woman with a white man or man of another race would be looked at similarly from the black man as being above her own race (these are stereotypes). Dealing with these extra pair of eyes always trailing you, looks of jealousy/hatred from people within your race, ppl looking down at you considering u to be a sellout is sometimes too much for ppl to handle.

Ultimately its up to the individual, but there are more factors that come to play in a decision like this. Women should consider omitting ridiculous standards like the writer of this article stated, exhaust all resources (friends, family), and never go into any situation with a closed mind.