http://swaymag.ca/2010/11/black-daddies-club-weekly-stereotypes-of-a-black-male-misunderstood/ Fri, 24 Dec 2010 02:02:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 http://swaymag.ca/2010/11/black-daddies-club-weekly-stereotypes-of-a-black-male-misunderstood/comment-page-1/#comment-13569 Jree Fri, 19 Nov 2010 13:24:36 +0000 http://swaymag.ca/?p=7756#comment-13569 I love this article, because I really admire men who have an awareness of self. Who do not walk around acting like they are perfect, and who do not fail to see the weaknesses within themselves. I admire even more so, those that although acknowledge these weaknesses, still strive for better. The ones that don’t just speak but also do. Being a father is a very privileged yet daunting task. Being responsible for not only yourself but someone else’s upbringing is a job that should not be taking lightly. And too many times I have seen this privilege being abused and ignored, leaving it up to the mothers, other men or worse the state, to look after these kids. We all are aware of the effects growing up fatherless can bring- and that is to say having no father at all and a father who is not consistent with his time and affection. This is sad but so true. Excuses about today’s society although a reality to some is still just an excuse, were we all to think that way- where would we as a people be. We all deal with issues in our life some real and some imaginary- we feel we go through one drama or the next, not realising were only doing it to ourselves. But in doing so we have created a comfortable cushion to rest our responsibilities on and say we cannot. True strength is taking all the negative experiences and reapplying them into our life as ones that has shaped a strong and responsible character- making a negative into a positive. We only cripple ourselves, when we choose to drown in it, or let it blind us from seeing what is it we need to be doing. So I do hope Antwonne your article genuinely reflects the relationship you have with your children. That in your heart and mind you know you are doing the very best that you can to love and provide teach and nurture them to raise them up as respectable outstanding individuals. I do hope that your article is not riddled with false truths only to provoke sympathy from its readers. Too many times men want a pity party and forget that they are men and that they need to get with it. I hope that since writing this article you have stepped your game up and is making not only time in your life but space in your heart to be a father to your kids and not just a baby daddy. I love this article, because I really admire men who have an awareness of self. Who do not walk around acting like they are perfect, and who do not fail to see the weaknesses within themselves. I admire even more so, those that although acknowledge these weaknesses, still strive for better. The ones that don’t just speak but also do.
Being a father is a very privileged yet daunting task. Being responsible for not only yourself but someone else’s upbringing is a job that should not be taking lightly. And too many times I have seen this privilege being abused and ignored, leaving it up to the mothers, other men or worse the state, to look after these kids. We all are aware of the effects growing up fatherless can bring- and that is to say having no father at all and a father who is not consistent with his time and affection. This is sad but so true.
Excuses about today’s society although a reality to some is still just an excuse, were we all to think that way- where would we as a people be. We all deal with issues in our life some real and some imaginary- we feel we go through one drama or the next, not realising were only doing it to ourselves. But in doing so we have created a comfortable cushion to rest our responsibilities on and say we cannot. True strength is taking all the negative experiences and reapplying them into our life as ones that has shaped a strong and responsible character- making a negative into a positive. We only cripple ourselves, when we choose to drown in it, or let it blind us from seeing what is it we need to be doing.
So I do hope Antwonne your article genuinely reflects the relationship you have with your children. That in your heart and mind you know you are doing the very best that you can to love and provide teach and nurture them to raise them up as respectable outstanding individuals. I do hope that your article is not riddled with false truths only to provoke sympathy from its readers. Too many times men want a pity party and forget that they are men and that they need to get with it. I hope that since writing this article you have stepped your game up and is making not only time in your life but space in your heart to be a father to your kids and not just a baby daddy.

]]> http://swaymag.ca/2010/11/black-daddies-club-weekly-stereotypes-of-a-black-male-misunderstood/comment-page-1/#comment-12420 Jason I Wed, 10 Nov 2010 06:02:15 +0000 http://swaymag.ca/?p=7756#comment-12420 Keep on keeping on Strong. More Love. Keep on keeping on Strong. More Love.

]]> http://swaymag.ca/2010/11/black-daddies-club-weekly-stereotypes-of-a-black-male-misunderstood/comment-page-1/#comment-11802 LAA Mon, 08 Nov 2010 17:48:19 +0000 http://swaymag.ca/?p=7756#comment-11802 powerful, please listen. powerful, please listen.

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